Solo Sexuality

Solo erotic trance is a way to access the deepest parts of our sexuality. Through conscious self-loving touch, breath, movement, and masturbation we can connect with our potential for experiencing pleasure. We start with exploring solo eroticism because knowing about your own sexuality is a lifelong love affair. Lovers and partners come and go throughout our life but we always have self-pleasure.

When delving into the exploration of our erotic self, we likely will come up against feelings of shame, negative message we have taken in about our bodies, and a whole range of emotions. As you go through the videos and worksheets in this section, I invite you to be gentle with yourself. Getting in touch with your own body’s erotic energy can be a powerful experience.

Remember there is no right or wrong way to do this work. Take your time. Notice how your body feels. Notice any emotions or thoughts that come up for you throughout this process. You might wish to keep a journal if writing helps you process your experience.

All of the videos and worksheets are suggestions for ways of approaching this exploration; find what works for you. Dare to be playful and enjoy this process of getting to know your erotic self.

Vulva – External Erotic Touch

Through masturbation we have found that our clitoris is a spot that feels GOOD to touch. However, we may not have spent much time touching the other parts of our vulva and experiencing what feels good on, for example, our outer labia.

Many of us who have engaged in penetrative partner sex may have experienced how little time, in general, is spent on the outside and how much emphasis is placed on getting inside the vagina. With this in mind, taking our time and slowly exploring our entire vulva can offer new insights into the kind of touch that your vulva enjoys.

	With this video, we encourage you to watch the first time and then, the second time you watch it, have your mirror handy so you can explore along with Nellie. (640 x 480 20:30)
	You can reference this worksheet on vulva massage to learn more about specific techniques to pleasure your vulva

Vaginal – Internal Erotic Touch

As with external touch, many of us have had rushed or unpleasant experiences with internal touch or penetration of our vagina. Because of the structure of the vagina, the muscles around the opening need to be relaxed enough to allow for penetration and arousal needs to happen to start the process of lubrication. When we rush often one or both of these physiological aspects of the vagina has not been given enough time.

Taking our time and exploring the inside of our vagina when it is ready to receive can be an enlightening experience. Really take your time to listen to what your body is saying before you go inside.

	As with the last video on external touch, we encourage you to watch first before trying things out. (640 x 480, 22:20)
	Once you are inside, there are many wonderful sensations and textures that you can feel. This worksheet describes the G-spot and other aspects of the vagina in detail.